Loving bond and subjective solitude

Abstract

This paper is the result of a psychoanalytic research that tackled the intersection between two elements: loving bond and subjective solitude. It follows this hypothesis: if solitude implies an impossible for making bond, the loving bond can be considered as one of the most consistent forms the speaking being uses to seal up that solitude. Sigmund Freud wondered about the motives that lead us to make bonds with others and about the way societies appear and last; he created a theory in order to explain that; and he considered love in the dimension of the couple and taking into account the social reality, by highlighting its tendency to unite and by placing it as the superior level of the libidinal relationship with the other. On the other hand, Jacques Lacan, when talking about the bond between fellow beings, refers to a fundamental impossibility due to our condition of speaking beings, and it can be said that one of its effects is solitude. This author presents a vast development on love, highlighting its imaginary and symbolic quality, as well as he introduces other elements on how the real plays a role, too. It is concluded that solitude is a psychic and body experience, effect of the empty constitution of the speaking being, that poses an impossibility for making bond; in that sense, love works as a substitution for this impossible.